I don’t remember the last time I didn’t have at least one Kate Spade wallet or bag in my rotation, so I was incredibly sad this morning to hear the news that the designer had passed away inside her Park Avenue apartment. While the investigation into her death is brand new, and other than the tidbits of information that are leaking though the press and gossip networks here in NYC, we do know one thing. Her death was more than likely suicide.
As a creative, I have a special place in my heart for those who “make” and “share” their work. Why? Because it can be torturously difficult to do, both internally and externally. We spend most of our days with our ideas, striving to find the best and most honest ways to turn them into tangible items. That transference from thought to finished product in itself is difficult, time consuming, and can be exhilarating, but also exhausting.
“If I were a fictional character I’d be Alice from Alice In Wonderland.” – Kate Spade
Add to that sharing our work with the world, opening ourselves up to praise, but also criticism. And, I am actually of the mind that we need the criticism. How would our work evolve if we didn’t have a reason to adjust it; to better it? It would remain stagnant and boring. Getting hard to hear feedback, over time, helps to build the creative backbone, and makes us think more about the way that we create and present what we are sharing.
But, as much as the criticism is needed, I think there is a also a solid fact that we must recognize. You never know what another person is going through or how they are feeling. Shouldn’t it be expected that we give feedback and criticism to those around us constructively? Should we not take care to be sensitive to the mental health of other individuals? In my opinion, this should be incredibly important.
“Listen to others, but follow your own instincts.” – Kate Spade
More importantly, if you are feeling on the edge or are struggling mentally, please remember that better times will come. What you are going through right now, whether inflicted personally or by someone else, it will not be forever. You can get through it, and you will be better for it. Let yourself learn from your experiences and then use it for good. And please, please, don’t try to do it alone. Talk to someone, get help (HERE), and practice self care. This too, is important.
I leave with the words of Kate Spade herself; “Listen to others, but follow your own instincts.” I think we could all benefit from that advice.
Tuesday, June 5th, 2018
KATE SPADE • TODAYS MESSAGE